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Sparks can
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Crisis creates

Danger






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Opportunity

choices.




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Which will I choose?



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Attributes
Preoccupied with an "enemy"
Exclusive, individual survival
Interested in own narrative only
Violence, force, intimidation are acceptable
Inclined to blame the "other"
Tell, sell, persuade
Want best for own people only
Debate to be right, better, diminish other ideas
Withdraw from the relationship during crises
Misuse power to serve self, diminish "other"
Primary allegiance to self
Controlled by outer events
Confrontation and control
Long for the olden days

Attributes
Relate to the "other"
Inclusive sense of interdependence
Listen to all narratives
Violence obsolete and unacceptable
Take responsibility for own contribution to crisis
Inquire to expand own frame of reference
Want best for self and "other," equally
Dialogue to uncover new social intelligence
Stay in the relationship, especially in crises
Use power for the good of all
Primary allegiance to whole
Motivated by inner principles, faith, vision, decision
Cooperation and collaboration
Release unprecedented creativity to invent the future


Read "Resist Not Evil" by Professor Martin Hellman, Stanford University, published in "World Without Violence," Arun Gandhi, Editor, M.K. Gandhi Institute for Nonviolence, 1994, to honor Mahatma Gandhi's 125th birthday. It is on the Web at:
http://traubman.igc.org/resistnot.htm


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Voice: (650) 574-8303 -- Fax: (650) 573-1217
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