"Being there" for each other:

the power of one, our future as one

24 January 2019

 

"I hope someday you'll join us

And the world will be as one."

~ John Lennon (1971)

"What can one do except be one

Talking to two, touching three, growing to four million

Each of us is one

All of us are one."

~ Carole King (2018 new lyrics)

3-min music video -- from 1977 original song

https://youtu.be/gc93thQVIV8

It is time on Earth for each citizen to live with a large global view, meet each another, live among our blessed community as one -- diverse, but family.

Being as one IS NOT predatory conquest for oneself, in-hospitality, or withdrawing from relationships -- turning one's back, itself violent.
Being as one IS getting together, listening to learn everyone's life stories, thus dignifying and humanizing all in the midst -- not someday, but now.

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We often hear from people in difficult situations: "I just needed to hear your voice, see your face, hold your hand."

"Being there"
for each other prevents hopelessness and despair, even suicide and war.
Personal connection increases enthusiasm and imagining creative ways into our future together.

Being together -- in touch -- is best face-to-face, eyes-to-eyes, hand-in-hand, heart-to-heart.
Plus, fortunately today's communication technology and social media empower us to connect -- across time zones, surprisingly deeply.
An early example is at http://traubman.igc.org/light2015.htm


TODAY:
1.  "Being there" to help prevent desperate acts of violence, even suicide
2.  "Being there" for orphan children far away
3.  "Being there" for each other between Massachusetts and Kentucky coal country
4.  "Being there" in The Holy Land with Arabs and Jews, both
5.  Enrichment: Carl Rogers on Empathy and the power of listening


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"Being there" to help
prevent desperate acts
of violence, even suicide
Following violent acts of desperation, even self-destruction, we commonly conclude: "He was crazy. She was evil.  They are inhuman, not civilized." 
In recent history, there was a poverty of social science for reliable ways to prevent suicide.

Yet unperceived by us, our local Dialogue supporter, psychiatrist Jerome Motto (1921-2015), was insightfully, tenaciously pursuing clinical research.
Jerry was religiously "being there" for his suicide-prone patients for years following their release from therapy.
What he learned instructs humankind today: be there for each other, stay connected.

 

The Best Way To Save People From Suicide

What if this is what we should be doing? What if its that simple?

by Jason Cherkis

Huffington Post -- 16 November 2018

https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/how-to-help-someone-who-is-suicidal/

 
As the U.S. continues suffering an endless epidemic rise of suicide -- with violence of desperate people around Earth -- it is time to give power and action to the surprisingly successful method of human support pioneered in the 1960s by Dr. Jerry Motto.

 

Suicide, Veterans, and How a Simple Idea Is Trying to Combat a Crisis

9-min video - 14 November 2018

https://www.retroreport.org/video/suicide-veterans-and-how-a-simple-idea-tried-to-combat-a-crisis/

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"Being there" for
orphan children far away
Maggie Doyne travelled outside of her country, outside of herself to find her best self.
She tells her story of meeting and helping orphans from war and disease.
The background music is "Fearless Motivation."
We can be like Maggie.

 

23-year-old Girl Raises 200 Orphans

5-min video -- October 2018

https://youtu.be/TGuCxe8Yh2Q

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"Being there" for each other
between Massachusetts and
Kentucky coal country
Hands Across the Hills -- https://www.handsacrossthehills.org -- is diverse citizens transcending human misunderstandings building bridges across political divides between Letcher County, Kentucky, and Leverett, Massachusetts, after the 2016 presidential election.

During 2017-2018 they travelled to live and speak with one another, first in Massachusetts, then in Kentucky.
The connection continues, with new projects underway and personal relationships deepening.
Initiator Paul Green of the Karuna Center -- http://www.karunacenter.org -- received e-mail at Paula@karunacenter.org
HEAR and WATCH them:

 

Hands Across the Hills

National Public Radi (NPR) - 30 November 2018

11-min audio broadcast

http://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2018/11/28/conservatives-kentucky-liberals-massachusetts-politics

and

https://dcs.megaphone.fm/BUR3337454133.mp3

I Could Cry a River

Dialogue among citizens of Leverett, MA and Letcher County, KY

November 2018 documentary

13-min video

https://vimeo.com/299280925

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"Being there" in The Holy Land
with Arabs and Jews, both
Phyllis Bernstein insisted on traveling outside of her safe circle -- from her comfortable New Jersey home to be in the Middle East with not only her familiar Jewish people but especially with "the others," Palestinians.

Back home she published:  "American Jews are familiar with the Israeli narrative.
But the country is home to two narratives, and until there is acknowledgement of that (by both peoples), peace can be only a distant hope."

READ
how "being there" expanded her view of people and getting to our shared future.

 

Exploring outposts of the two narratives of Israel/Palestine

Phyllis Bernstein

New Jersey Jewish News -- November 21, 2018

https://njjewishnews.timesofisrael.com/exploring-outposts-of-the-two-narratives-of-israel-palestine/

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Enrichment

 

Carl Rogers on Empathy

The surprising power of Listening

for what has Meaning to one another,

thus dignifying both listener and speaker

Carl Rogers (1902-1987) -- 14-1/2 min 1974 video

https://youtu.be/iMi7uY83z-U


This message is on the Web at https://traubman.igc.org/messages/716.htm
Hundreds of other success stories are preserved at https://traubman.igc.org/messages.htm